Three Things That Undermine Our Best Intentions

Tell me if this sounds familiar:

• You know what would be good for you. (Doesn't matter what: exercise three times per week, eat less sugar, meditate daily, improve your relationship, keep the house cleaner, get a job or a better job, get out there and date, go back to school, finish that project...)
• You make up your mind to do it.
• You don't do it. 

Even a simple goal such as getting out of bed earlier can elude us. 

I know why people fail. 

Here is a countdown of three of the top reasons people fail to achieve their goals, and how I can help:

3. People expect doing good to feel good. When it doesn't feel good, they quit.

Consciously or unconsciously we expect a reward for good behavior. 

No one expects what actually happens. When we undertake a positive change a whole barrage of stuff happens that does not feel good at all. Our minds get mad at us for making a change. Yes! The same mind that came up with this healthy, new life plan gets to work to undermine it. Thinking up a good idea is one thing, carrying out that plan is very different. 

Add to that, when we manage to sustain a positive change over time it creates an opportunity for negativity to be released. Yes! Crusty old habits and thoughts come knocking, and it is actually because we are doing something good; it is actually a good, good sign. People misinterpret this as failure... and give up.

I will align your expectations with reality, and you will achieve your goal.

2. Failure has become a habit.

Have you ever encouraged yourself to make a positive change and not followed through on that? How many times? 

No matter what you want to change, you need to break the failure habit and create a habit of success. 

I can help you make success a habit no matter what wish or goal we work on together. 

1. You are trying to do it alone. 

The number one reason that people fail to achieve their goals is because they go it alone.

Among my clients, the average amount of time that they have been working on their goal by themselves is ten years. Finally, after ten years, they get fed up with the repeated failures that come from doing it the same way, a way that does not work, again and again. 

With professional support, those clients achieve their goals quickly. I am absolutely serious when I say that people accomplish in months, or even weeks what they have not been able to do in YEARS. 

Don't wait ten years. You can have what you want. I know how to make that happen.

Email jelyrose@gmail.com or call 646-831-2675 to schedule an appointment.